I did my best with the lines such as: "I find you really attractive and I would like to get to know you", "I think you and me should talk, wink wink", "I have not met you yet, but I bet I will enjoy your company" and all other variations of that. Be aware, if you are a newbie and starting the journey this way. You will get rejected and for the first 40 or more approaches you are going to feel like a failure if your success rate is less than 10%. It works only if you can be really confident and hold yourself in the battle later on but your composure has to be super tight in order to succeed. I decided to take this route to rough myself up a bit to develop a bit thicker skin. Because once you start seeing things from a new perspective you will learn not to take their shit tests so seriously. Any responses such as "fuck of", "I have a boyfriend" , "Leave me ALONE! you prick" or any such a like does not crush you that easily anymore.
What have I gained by approaching like that ? I know that whatever heaviest thing she is going to drop on me I will stay collected. I believe I can go out anytime to talk to any girl equipped with a new attitude. I have got a strong card to play in social interactions. One that I needed at the very begging.
As I was licking my wounds after being a serial approacher:) I thought about the way of pushing myself even further. This thing about a belief kept repeating like a mantra on the back of my head. I decided to explore the subject even further. I came across an article on guardian. Please feel free to check it yourself: http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2005/jun/30/psychology.neuroscience. The most interesting part I have noticed there was this:
Beliefs and ideas therefore become our currency, says Taylor. Society is no longer a question of simple survival; it is about choice of companions and views, pressures, ideas, options and preferences.....
So you may want to ask yourself what do I need to do to form healthier beliefs about my approach to life and dating ? First discover and examine the principles behind social interactions. It has been said over and over again that women do desire dominant men. This is their nature. New principles therefore are based on human nature which is stable and reliable. It is as certain as a gravity. Once you accept the rule of gravity you know how to play around with it. If you want to jump from a plane, make sure you take the parachute so you dont get hurt. You know what to do. When you toss a coin in the air you know it will come back to your hand. You form expectations based on facts. You don't have to expect a reaction as the law of gravity has been proven to work over and over again. Interesting thing is, if the coin gets stuck in the middle of ther air, that would be considered a miracle, magic or a work of devil. So you feel confident once you base your actions on the reality and stunned if the principles do not work. The same metaphor applies to women. The more principles you know the more healthier beliefs you form. External behaviors such as confidence and playfulness appear as a result of a new belief.
But in order to form a better you, you have to expose yourself back at social interactions and try out new principles in actions. Everyday apply something new, keep a keen eye on what is going on around you. Go out of comfort zone and try to take charge of a simple thing once you are around a woman. Test it, apply it, believe in it see what happens. You might want to surprise yourself. Just remember, these principles are as true and as certain and proven to work as newtons law of motion, so once you see the light play around with it, that's were charm and social mastery lies.
My next post will be about these principles in action. Examples, personal stories and results to follow.